A Letter to the Girl Who Tried to Steal My Boyfriend

January 3, 2017

I felt like my last 2 blog posts, yesterdays in particular, were extremely boring and a disappointment to not only me but also to the one person who read them. I figured that while I could write about how I woke up at noon today, went to the gym, and then filmed a YouTube video, nobody would find it interesting or worth spending their time on. So I'm going to do something to make this blog post a little more interesting as to not bore you out of your minds.

I am in an almost 3 year relationship with the guy I've been dating since I was 15 years old and I truly could not be any happier than I am with him, but, he cheated on me. He cheated on me not once, not twice, but three times with three different girls. I am sure anyone reading this is extremely confused as to why I am still with him and I'd be lying if I said that I wasn't sometimes confused by it myself. I will probably do a longer, more detailed post about that whole story, how I found out, and why we're still together later on, but for today I wanted to share with you a letter that I wrote to one of the girls he cheated with. I didn't send her this or share it with anyone. I wrote it one night when I was feeling particularly upset about the situation and I put it on my old blog just because writing often makes me feel better and it felt good to get it all out. But then I thought, "hey, this blog is basically my diary. I should share this on here". So here's a letter to the girl who tried to steal my boyfriend.

Are you proud of yourself? Do you feel like you accomplished something? One of the lowest things you can do in life is get involved with a guy that you know is in a relationship, but that's exactly what you did. What'd you think was going to happen? You thought you could text him, convince him you were better than I was, and everything would be perfect? Two years, he had been dating me for almost 2 YEARS, and you were fully aware of that. Yet somewhere in your mind this was an okay thing to do? You didn't feel bad when you got in his car after school and made out with him while I sat clueless at my house thinking he was at an after school club? And what about every single time after that when you smiled at me in the hallway and pretended nothing happened? What kind of person does that and doesn't feel bad?

I see people all over social media talking about how "perfect" you are and how you "deserve everything" and it takes everything in me not to scream at every person who praises you for being a "literal queen" when you're actually one of the worst human beings to ever exist. And don't get me wrong, he's extremely guilty too, but you encouraged it, and that makes you just a little more guilty.

Aren't girls supposed to have each others backs? Shouldn't I have gotten a "hey, your boyfriend hooked up with me today after school" text? Well I didn't. You let him cheat on me and you let me look like the idiot for thinking all was fine in the world. I have nights that are spent tossing and turning, trying to figure out how someone could be so awful. I've cried way too many tears, because of you and the amount of anger I feel when your name is mentioned is indescribable. Its midnight, on a Wednesday night, and I'm shaking and can't sleep, because of you.

It's been a year now, since you tried to steal my boyfriend. I only found out about it 6 months ago though, that was a fun conversation to have. All of my homecoming pictures from that year are permanently ruined now by the way, thanks for that.

You're a senior in high school and I look forward to the day that you move away from this city and I never have to hear your name again. I'll never be able to explain why I was able to forgive him, but just know, that I'll never forgive you.

You weren't the only one, that tried to take it him from me (I guess he's a good catch), but you are the one that hurt the most. Because unlike the others, you knew he was taken and you weren't a misunderstanding and you didn't apologize. You did this on purpose. You hurt me on purpose. You let him cheat on me, on purpose. I don't like conflict, I typically don't hold grudges, and I'm very quick to forgive, but you, you're a different story.

"She's holding you back"
"I'm better for you"
"You'd be happier with me"

Well jokes on you because a year later he's still mine and 10 years from now, he'll still be mine. You tried, but you failed.

A piece of advice, next time, go after someone who's single. Because nobody wants to be known as the girl who breaks up relationships.

Oh, and one last thing, in case you didn't get it the first time...
I'll never forgive you.